tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1229382235312135538.post5286635803540212702..comments2023-10-03T06:26:41.833-07:00Comments on Catfights & Broken Heels: Young Mums; The StigmaNikkayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18250084251124705561noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1229382235312135538.post-2005918921511683762012-02-28T08:25:48.169-08:002012-02-28T08:25:48.169-08:00Good post.
I got pregnant at 16 (gave birth at 17...Good post. <br />I got pregnant at 16 (gave birth at 17). I didn't want to be pregnant (long story) but I remember walking back from the shop and an old couple passed me. The lady looked me up and down, shook her head and tutted. To be fair I probably did look about 11 with the stupid haircut I had back then but what gave her the right to do that? When I got home I cried until my eyes were sore. From then on I tried not to go out, I didn't want people looking at me and making the same assumptions the old lady had. I was still going to 6th form until the headteacher decided I should take my "maternity leave". I did half of my A level exams and planned on going back after baby was born but I couldn't. With my mum and dad working full time and the babys father not interested I had to stay home.<br />I don't regret having my eldest daughter, I love her to bits, I just wish I could have had her older. <br />I'm still regarded as a young mum now, even with 3 children. I don't see myself as one though, I feel well experienced and sure I have much more baby knowledge than a childless 40 year old. Age doesn't matter to me (obviously I don't advocate getting pregnant too young) but as long as you are a good mum and do your best, what should age matter?<br />When i was in hospital having my third baby the midwife asked me about future contraception. We discussed it, then she said bluntly "you need to use something, you are too young to have three children as it is"... I think the look on my face showed her how I felt about that comment.<br />No one has the right to judge..(unless of course they are dole dossing, drug taking scumbags like you get on Jeremy Kyle of course!)<br />Woah, long comment, sorry!<br /><br />Holli x<br />Dragonmommy123.blogspot.comDragon Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05310373349165045733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1229382235312135538.post-85989071733458093692012-02-10T07:41:05.780-08:002012-02-10T07:41:05.780-08:00Thank you both so much for your lovely comments!
...Thank you both so much for your lovely comments! <br /><br />Samantha - Your comment really made me smile! Your mum was a young mum, younger than me and it seems she did a great job. I think its so easy for people to judge when they haven't been there themselfs, and don't know anyone who has. xxNikkayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18250084251124705561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1229382235312135538.post-68476181787454961752012-02-07T03:26:08.162-08:002012-02-07T03:26:08.162-08:00Good for you, hun. I don't think age matters i...Good for you, hun. I don't think age matters in whether you're a good parent or not. My Mum had my brother when she was 16 and had me when she was 20, and faced stigma all her life because of it. Both my brother and I are doing really well now, and I believe my Mum did a fantastic job of raising us, even though she was so young. The one thing my Mum always did say is what you say - that it's so tough to be a mum and establish a career at the same time. But life doesn't always work out neatly like that, and I believe things happen for a reason :) Your little girl is absolutely beautiful and looks very happy, so who gives a damn how old you are! I personally love the fact that I'm turning 22 and my Mum is only 42, it's been great having a young mum :)<br /><br /><br />xo <a href="http://xosamanthagrace.com" rel="nofollow">Samantha Grace</a>Samantha Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10605371101832328939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1229382235312135538.post-32403464169006545112012-02-01T11:12:53.036-08:002012-02-01T11:12:53.036-08:00Sorry you've had to deal with so much judgemen...Sorry you've had to deal with so much judgement hun! <br /><br />Pay no attention to those horrible people, instead just enjoy spending time with your precious little one!Makeup and Muttshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06104764169334393054noreply@blogger.com